All underwear, are not created equal, and wearing the wrong underwear can turn your attire from business casual to inappropriate. Whether you’re fat, skinny, tall or short, this conversation applies to you! This is a lesson that can and should be applied to your attire in and out of the workplace. Your underwear, should never spill out excessive butt, hips, or stomach, and doing so, can ultimately take your outfit from class (or simply cute) to trash. Honey attracts bees, and we want to be sure to that we are sending the appropriate and intended message.
We are living in a time where over exposure is welcomed and appreciated. If that’s what you enjoy, this conversation isn’t for you (if it don’t apply, let it fly). Instead I am talking to women who are looking to uphold an image of class, while maintaining a clean and professional look. Having the wrong undergarments can immediately diminish your look, and I’d imagine is not the most comfortable.
“Partnership is not a posture but a process – a continuous process that grows strong each year as we devote ourselves to common tasks.” – JFK
Finding the right partner in business, is a lot like finding the right partnership in love! Sometimes it happens by chance, and other times, you have to search until you find the right fit! Why am I qualified to speak about what it takes to have a good partner? Well, because I have one, and I’ve had one for the last 7/8 years. Thank you GOD! If you’ve ever heard me talk on a panel, or been to a class I’ve taught, it’s an experience that I always share.
A great way to relieve some of the pressure, in starting or running a business, is to consider having a partner(s). In fact, I am really shocked that I haven’t written about this topic in detail. I actually could have, and wouldn’t know, because I don’t go back and read old blogs. SO, if I did, you’re getting it again today (insert innocent smile); I’ll make it good though!
I am surrounded and CONSTANTLY influenced by the hustle, hearts, elegance, charisma and GANGSTA of all the Girl Bosses in Detroit! I mean, Detroit women have a presence about them, that is undeniable and of all the places I’ve been, I’ve never seen women hustle (in heels) like WE do! By no means, is this shade, to women from any other place, but Detroit women have “IT”, okay? It doesn’t matter where they live, or what they are doing. Having Detroit, in their DNA, sets them apart.
My purpose in starting Corporate Momming was to inspire moms to go after the things they’re passionate about, and still KILL at motherhood, simultaneously. Doing so requires a circle of people you can be inspired by, and who you SEE carrying out the same things that make you go “WOW, she’s killing it, WITH a baby on her hip!” – and by baby, I don’t literally mean an infant, I am more so highlighting the fact that they are moms! Rather they are your friends, friends in your head or people you follow on IG, I am 100% sure that you can find women from Detroit, that are doing the DAMN THANG!
“My great-great-grandchildren already rich, that’s a lot of brown children on your Forbes list” – Beyoncé
While scrolling Facebook, this morning, one of my grammar school classmates posted a screen print of a conversation between her and her daughter. Her daughter was telling her mom that the school had been on lockdown, because of a shooting that happened just steps away from her. My heart became heavy, and I ventured to think about why all the senseless killings, in our schools and amongst our youth overall, are taking place. What could be lacking? How do we close the gap? Why don’t our children know the value of life, and the cost of taking one?
We, as parents, are working really hard, to make a living and make sure our children don’t have to worry about some of the things we may have coming up, and to leave a legacy for generations to follow. We want them to have assets, money, college paid for, so on and so forth. Generational wealth, ya know?
“…rich in love, in spirituality, individuality, kindness, service, consideration, and more.”
However, wealth goes far beyond the things we can acquire and leave behind. We have to make investments in ourselves and children, to ensure that generations to follow are mentally, physically, and spiritually healthy. I always speak about how, people favor my mom’s children because of who she’s been to them. Her being, a kind, caring and prayerful woman has caused people in return to be really good to us; and I, as a mom, am consciously sewing the seed to do the same for my child.
Moreover, what we tell our children about themselves, the environments we place them in and what we do in front of them, directly affects their behavior. Children need to hear their parents tell them that they love them, and moreover that love needs to be shown, daily. Our children have to be rich in so many things, that don’t involve money, to ensure that they, along with their lineage, are “wealthy”. They must be rich in love, in spirituality, individuality, kindness, service, consideration, confidence and more.
In addition to working hard, as parents we have to monitor what we allow or children to be influenced by. We can’t watch and laugh at trash TV, where women are fighting over men, and belittling themselves, and expect that are children won’t be influenced by it. EVERY thing we do, affects our children and generations to follow!
We all know about the constant circulation of meme’s that discuss how people who don’t know you, support you before your friends do, or expressing how the lack of support from friends affect the individual. Essentially, people get REALLY offended when friends and family don’t support their business, ideas, and/or events. Let it go! I’ll say it again, LET. IT. GO.
“…they don’t understand your line of business…”
I am really about focusing on the things I have rather than the things I don’t have. I have, what one may consider, A LOT (probably a solid 10) of GOOD friends! I mean, women that I’m close to, that I consider more like sisters, than friends. To my knowledge, only one of them reads Corporate Momming, two of them have patronized my accounting firm, and I’m completely fine with that. I guess I will find out if there are more that do, after reading this. My point is, I am not looking to see who is reading and who is not. In fact, I sometimes send them blogs, that I think they’d be interested in. I do not think they are bad friends, or that they don’t care about me. The truth is, I am focused on providing a good product for the people who are supporting my endeavors.
It is a very kind gesture for your friends to support your entrepreneurial efforts, very kind. It is not a requirement. Further, I think it is somewhat selfish to place that expectation on your friends. They are adults with busy lives, and personal obligations that impact how they move and what they do. Their lack of support does not indicate malicious intent, and it’s no reason to take it personal, unless you’re otherwise concerned about their commitment to the friendship.
“I don’t think that it’s really fair to guilt trip a friend for not supporting.”
For the most part, I consider myself to be pretty involved and active in supporting whatever my friends are working on. In general, I consider to be very giving of my time, support, and knowledge when it comes to those I love! That’s a VERY hard commitment to make, and in general I think it takes a very thoughtful and generous person to willingly and constantly support every time you drop a new item, read every blog post, or shout you out because you’re popping, lol! Come on.
I don’t think that it’s really fair to guilt trip a friend for not supporting. It could be that they don’t understand your line of business, or don’t have a need for the product you’re offering. It could also be worse; your friends could be asking you to provide free/discounted services, or they could just be difficult to work with, because of the relationship. Lets also consider, critiques from your friends and family could sting a lot more, than from those you don’t consider close. So there are pros and cons on either side.
Ultimately , your focus should start and end with the people who are supporting you. Those are your people, as far as your business is concerned. Yes, we are human and we will consider where support is lacking. However, you have to make a choice to focus on the people who are assigned to you, and how that assignment can grow as a result of the service you provide. As I mentioned, it is a kind and thoughtful gesture, when friends support! Please remember this: If God placed these ideas on your heart, He will give you everything you need to succeed in that endeavor!