Busy, but I aint Complaining’!

 “In my busyness, I have learned to give God thanks…”

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There’s not enough time, in a day…but what else is new?

Oh, hey y’all!  Happy New Year!  I took much of January off from writing to focus solely on my accounting practice and prepare for the upcoming busy season.  So I’m back (kind of) to discuss how I manage my season of business, and the potential stress of it all!

Have you ever been so busy, that you begin to complain about it? Not sleeping, not eating (properly or at all), or even having enough time to do the things you need to do.  Very stressful, right? RIGHT!   Well…Welcome to my January – April of TWENTY-EVERY YEAR! It’s my busy season, as I am an accountant, and Co-Owner of J&F Advisors, PLLC (book your appointment online *wink*).  This is the time of year where I have to miss a ton of invites, and my friends wonder if I’m acting funny because I don’t call!

Being busy use to really take a toll on me, until one day I had an epiphany! I was complaining about what I’d asked God to allow me to do! My prayers went a something like this, “God give me the knowledge and tools to grow my business.  Help me to find favor amongst many, and the ability to present a favorable product to my clients.”  Super good prayer!  I didn’t think about what that growth and favor looked like, then; but I can SURELY tell you what it looks like now!  It looks like….BUSY!

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I am constantly multitasking, running from one meeting to the next, scrambling for time, and usually running out.  In my busyness, I have learned to give God thanks, and to pray for the strength, willingness, and hunger to go after it all.  I’ve also prayed for God to deliver me from this season of busyness, as he sees fit, because only He knows how I want to spend a week on a beach for my birthday (which falls during busy season).

The other option of complaining and being unappreciative; let me tell you exactly where that got me: moody, stressed out, and burnt out!  Changing my perspective, changed my enthusiasm around the hard work that’s required to be a business owner, or to work a job at all!  Heavy is the head that wears the crown. It helped me to realize that the very things I pray for, require hard work, tenacity, resilience, and PATIENCE!

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Let’s not dismiss that fact that we get tired with everything that Mom’s juggle, and please don’t ever think that to be successful you have to skip out on sleep!  I am a night owl, naturally; I also understand the value in rest! Running on empty will  have you in a race that you’ll never win!  So, I am not suggesting that you don’t get rest!  Instead, I’m shedding a little light to say, appreciate your season of busyness, and work and pray for it’s ending.  Realize that it’s apart of the “Glow Up”, and move along with your day!  You got this, baby girl!

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Your Gifts will Make Room For You!

Your Gifts will Make Room For You!

“You life is a reflection of what you hold inside of you, and what you hold inside of you is always under your control.”

With approximately three weeks left in 2018, everyone is moving full steam, trying to decide on how they can make the next year better than this one!  I love the optimism that comes during this season, and how everyone is looking to tap into their gifts and what they want out of life.  One of the best things I’ve done for myself, is to create a career for myself where I am also able to combine the things I’m passionate about. In doing that, my gift has made room for me!  I have been presented with opportunities, allowing me to operate in my gift, not only providing me with financial gain, but with a feeling of accomplishment and fulfillment.

I had a talk with a client one day, and he told me “When you’re operating in fear, you can talk yourself out of so much.”  He went on to describe how we become a meteorologist, a psychologist, a psychic, and so on, when we are thinking of why things won’t work.  The weather will be bad, people won’t like my idea, it’s not the right time, what if I fail – excuses for not executing.  However, what if none of those things exist, and you can truly walk in your gift!  Walking in your gift does not mean that you have to quit your 9-5.  Heck, your 9-5 could be the very place that allows you to do that.  It does mean that you must have an honest conversation with yourself about what will suit you best, in this moment.

“You don’t need permission or creative license to design the life you know you are worthy of, so adjust your crown and prepare to rule.” ~ June Ambrose

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I talk about, in many of my blogs, how I worked a 9-5 and ran my personal business, for SEVEN years, simultaneously. I switched jobs quite a bit, because non of them felt like a really good fit for me. In hindsight, I realized that I was the common denominator, and the only work that I have been truly happy with, is the work I’ve done for myself. I knew that at some point, I’d end up working for myself, but I did not know when and what would be the determining factor.  Honestly, I didn’t know until three months out, that it was time to quit.  In short, I was unreasonably busy, my business was growing, and being a present mom was important to me.  Once I had that conversation with myself, I was ready to leave that day!  I ended up waiting, three months, until I got my bonus!

Working for myself has also allowed me the flexibility to do other work, that I’m passionate about, like Corporate Momming! Starting this blog has allowed me to connect with many like-minded moms, and business women.  It has further allowed me to tap into other ways in which people need what I have to offer. My gifts are still making room for me!

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If you struggle with identifying your gift(s), it’s the thing(s) that don’t go away.  The thoughts and actions that constantly resurface, even when you’re purposely avoiding them! Maybe you’re good at creating, planning, encouraging others, or something as simple as writing!  Whatever it is, they all have the ability to allow you the flexibility to operate in them, as you see fit! Choosing not to, will cause constant dissatisfaction! Every job, and every tasks will become daunting experiences because you are doing the work to fulfill someone else’s vision and not your own.

This time around, while doing vision boards, grab pen and paper, and write down your ideas to go along with the photos you attach.  Also include language around, ways in which you can find more fulfillment in the work that you do!  Remove the focus from money (I can almost promise, it will come!) and spend time really digging into the work that makes you happy!  Also, hold yourself accountable to that by constantly checking in and determining where or if adjustments are needed.

Choosing a Partner

Choosing a Partner

“Partnership is not a posture but a process – a continuous process that grows strong each year as we devote ourselves to common tasks.” – JFK

Finding the right partner in business, is a lot like finding the right partnership in love! Sometimes it happens by chance, and other times, you have to search until you find the right fit!  Why am I qualified to speak about what it takes to have a good partner? Well, because I have one, and I’ve had one for the last 7/8 years. Thank you GOD! If you’ve ever heard me talk on a panel, or been to a class I’ve taught, it’s an experience that I always share.

A great way to relieve some of the pressure, in starting or running a business, is to consider having a partner(s). In fact, I am really shocked that I haven’t written about this topic in detail.  I actually could have, and wouldn’t know, because I don’t go back and read old blogs.  SO, if I did, you’re getting it again today (insert innocent smile); I’ll make it good though!

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The Detroit MomBoss: For the WIN

The Detroit MomBoss: For the WIN

I am surrounded and CONSTANTLY influenced by the hustle, hearts, elegance, charisma and GANGSTA of all the Girl Bosses in Detroit! I mean, Detroit women have a presence about them, that is undeniable and of all the places I’ve been, I’ve never seen women hustle (in heels) like WE do! By no means, is this shade, to women from any other place, but Detroit women have “IT”, okay? It doesn’t matter where they live, or what they are doing.  Having Detroit, in their DNA, sets them apart.

My purpose in starting Corporate Momming was to inspire moms to go after the things they’re passionate about, and still KILL at motherhood, simultaneously.  Doing so requires a circle of people you can be inspired by, and who you SEE carrying out the same things that make you go “WOW, she’s killing it, WITH a baby on her hip!” – and by baby, I don’t literally mean an infant, I am more so highlighting the fact that they are moms!  Rather they are your friends,  friends in your head or people you follow on IG, I am 100% sure that you can find women from Detroit, that are doing the DAMN THANG!

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Generational Wealth

“My great-great-grandchildren already rich, that’s a lot of brown children on your Forbes list” – Beyoncé

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While scrolling Facebook, this morning, one of my grammar school classmates posted a screen print of a conversation between her and her daughter.  Her daughter was telling her mom that the school had been on lockdown, because of a shooting that happened just steps away from her.  My heart became heavy, and I ventured to think about why all the senseless killings, in our schools and amongst our youth overall, are taking place. What could be lacking? How do we close the gap? Why don’t our children know the value of life, and the cost of taking one?

We, as parents, are working really hard, to make a living and make sure our children don’t have to worry about some of the things we may have coming up, and to leave a legacy for generations to follow. We want them to have assets, money, college paid for, so on and so forth. Generational wealth, ya know?

“…rich in love, in spirituality, individuality, kindness, service, consideration, and more.”

However, wealth goes far beyond the things we can acquire and leave behind.  We have to make investments in ourselves and children, to ensure that generations to follow are mentally, physically, and spiritually healthy. I always speak about how, people favor my mom’s children because of who she’s been to them.  Her being, a kind, caring and prayerful woman has caused people in return to be really good to us; and I, as a mom, am consciously sewing the seed to do the same for my child.

Moreover, what we tell our children about themselves, the environments we place them in and what we do in front of them, directly affects their behavior.  Children need to hear their parents tell them that they love them, and moreover that love needs to be shown, daily. Our children have to be rich in so many things, that don’t involve money, to ensure that they, along with their lineage, are “wealthy”.  They must be rich in love, in spirituality, individuality, kindness, service, consideration, confidence and more.

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In addition to working hard, as parents we have to monitor what we allow or children to be influenced by. We can’t watch and laugh at trash TV, where women are fighting over men, and belittling themselves, and expect that are children won’t be influenced by it.  EVERY thing we do, affects our children and generations to follow!

Your Friends Don’t Have to Support You!

Your Friends Don’t Have to Support You!

We all know about the constant circulation of meme’s that discuss how people who don’t know you, support you before your friends do, or expressing how the lack of support from friends affect the individual. Essentially, people get REALLY offended  when friends and family don’t support their business, ideas, and/or events. Let it go! I’ll say it again, LET. IT. GO.

“…they don’t understand your line of business…”

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In the moments that I need my friends, they are and have always been there. Rather or not they choose to support my business endeavors are an added bonus, and do not compare to the ways they have contributed to my life, otherwise!

I am really about focusing on the things I have rather than the things I don’t have. I have, what one may consider, A LOT (probably a solid 10) of GOOD friends! I mean, women that I’m close to, that I consider more like sisters, than friends.  To my knowledge, only one of them reads Corporate Momming, two of them have patronized my accounting firm, and I’m completely fine with that.  I guess I will find out if there are more that do, after reading this. My point is, I am not looking to see who is reading and who is not.  In fact, I sometimes send them blogs, that I think they’d be interested in. I do not think they are bad friends, or that they don’t care about me.  The truth is, I am focused on providing a good product for the people who are supporting my endeavors.

It is a very kind gesture for your friends to support your entrepreneurial efforts, very kind.  It is not a requirement.  Further, I think it is somewhat selfish to place that expectation on your friends. They are adults with busy lives, and personal obligations that impact how they move and what they do. Their lack of support does not indicate malicious intent, and it’s no reason to take it personal, unless you’re otherwise concerned about their commitment to the friendship.

“I don’t think that it’s really fair to guilt trip a friend for not supporting.”

For the most part, I consider myself to be pretty involved and active in supporting whatever my friends are working on.  In general, I consider to be very giving of my time, support, and knowledge when it comes to those I love!  That’s a VERY hard commitment to make, and in general I think it takes a very thoughtful and generous person to willingly and constantly support every time you drop a new item, read every blog post, or shout you out because you’re popping, lol!  Come on.

I don’t think that it’s really fair to guilt trip a friend for not supporting.  It could be that they don’t understand your line of business, or don’t have a need for the product you’re offering.  It could also be worse; your friends could be asking you to provide free/discounted services, or they could just be difficult to work with, because of the relationship.  Lets also consider, critiques from your friends and family could sting a lot more, than from those you don’t consider close.  So there are pros and cons on either side.

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Walk in your light, focusing and making the best of what you DO have! -Robyn

Ultimately , your focus should start and end with the people who are supporting you. Those are your people, as far as your business is concerned. Yes, we are human and we will consider where support is lacking.  However, you have to make a choice to focus on the people who are assigned to you, and how that assignment can grow as a result of the service you provide.  As I mentioned, it is a kind and thoughtful gesture, when friends support!  Please remember this: If God placed these ideas on your heart, He will give you everything you need to succeed in that endeavor!

 

Boundaries: Where Necessary

Boundaries: Where Necessary

Boundary: a line that marks a limit.

Having real boundaries set, were not a real thing to me until I had a child. There were boundaries that I had subconsciously set, based on my moral compass, and time.  However, having a child made me really think about things that I could no longer allow or participate in, to ensure I was spending my time and energy where it was most important, with my child.

As I begin to grow in motherhood and as an entrepreneur, I began to set more and more boundaries. Boundaries were necessary in order for me to be to be organized, to have peace, and ultimately to be successful.  I was, initially, very reactive in setting boundaries, setting them only after a point of frustration.  Then I realized the benefit of proactively setting them to avoid frustration, confusion, and wasted time.  I also learned that when setting boundaries, I had to eliminate emotional inhibitions.  I couldn’t be concerned with how people would feel (if my heart was in the right place) and I had to focus on what was best for my child and my personal success.

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