“Being powerful means helping someone else find their voice.”
POWER. What comes to mind when you think of being in power? Being in control, in charge, strong – flexing your muscle, having it ALL. That sounds like power, right? Power is having the ability to orchestrate the results you want in a given situation; it is having the wherewithal to delegate and to make decisions that will largely affect others.
WRONG!!! Power is leadership, and how your leadership can impact those led by you! It is using your position and resources to benefit others, in a positive light! Power is using your leadership to inspire and create more leaders. “Lifting as we Climb”, a mantra coined by the National Association of Black Accountants, is what having power is all about.
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” – Henry Ford
Failure, defined as a lack of success, and the omission of expected or required action. It is mentioned with negative connotations and associations of shame. I challenge you today to replace point of view, and magnify all failure as data points – data points for what will not work, measurements for improving, and understanding your resilience.
I knew that I didn’t want my side hustle to stay a side hustle…
If you’ve ever thought about starting a business, side hustles (jobs) are a great way to build and develop your ideas, while maintaining a steady income. Side hustles give you the opportunity to start small, as you learn and work your way up. They are also a way to bring in additional income, and to just pursue multiple things you’re passionate about. The nice thing about side hustles is, you can commit as much or as little as you chose to, and there is a ton of flexibility involved.
We always hear the saying “your network determines your net worth”, but what about those who are afraid or shy away from approaching unfamiliar faces. Believe it or not, I get really awkward (in my opinion) when it’s time for me to speak to someone about what I do. I wouldn’t consider myself an introvert per say. However, I have always struggled with “small talk”. I’m fairly reserved and if i could have my way, I’d prefer to people watch.
My first experience with networking came early on in my career, in public accounting. We would have after work mixers, and team building outings that forced us to meet new faces. Initially, I would go off in a corner or stick with familiar faces, to avoid having to talk to new people. It wasn’t until I became a business owner that I had to force myself to actually talk to people. The one thing I will say is, the more I did it, the easier it got.
“…despite having a child, I still had goals and a deep desire to be great at whatever I chose to do.”
After a breakup that seemed much like a divorce, I was completely distraught. Maybe I watched too many movies or read too many love stories, but nothing about starting a family was a fairy tale for me. I was left with a mortgage, a baby and 4 bathrooms with little energy to clean them. I always wondering how families failed to keep things together for the kids, but the relationship just no longer worked. I was completely embarrassed that my family failed and it weighed on me deeply.
It had become emotionally and mentally draining and I no longer had the strength to fight.
Between balancing my career, motherhood, love and trying find myself – I was exhausted. My desire to outwork everyone and climb the corporate ladder had became a blur. My life was filled with work. Corporate America without children is hard enough and all I could think about was my baby and sleep.
I guess without having an open conversation about it – I figured I would take some time off to get myself together. I did not help with many of the bills. I actually only paid my car note and what I could. I read a lot of books and it said most wealthy families allowed the wife to stay home and raise the kids, so I figured we were good.