Busy, but I aint Complaining’!

 “In my busyness, I have learned to give God thanks…”

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There’s not enough time, in a day…but what else is new?

Oh, hey y’all!  Happy New Year!  I took much of January off from writing to focus solely on my accounting practice and prepare for the upcoming busy season.  So I’m back (kind of) to discuss how I manage my season of business, and the potential stress of it all!

Have you ever been so busy, that you begin to complain about it? Not sleeping, not eating (properly or at all), or even having enough time to do the things you need to do.  Very stressful, right? RIGHT!   Well…Welcome to my January – April of TWENTY-EVERY YEAR! It’s my busy season, as I am an accountant, and Co-Owner of J&F Advisors, PLLC (book your appointment online *wink*).  This is the time of year where I have to miss a ton of invites, and my friends wonder if I’m acting funny because I don’t call!

Being busy use to really take a toll on me, until one day I had an epiphany! I was complaining about what I’d asked God to allow me to do! My prayers went a something like this, “God give me the knowledge and tools to grow my business.  Help me to find favor amongst many, and the ability to present a favorable product to my clients.”  Super good prayer!  I didn’t think about what that growth and favor looked like, then; but I can SURELY tell you what it looks like now!  It looks like….BUSY!

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I am constantly multitasking, running from one meeting to the next, scrambling for time, and usually running out.  In my busyness, I have learned to give God thanks, and to pray for the strength, willingness, and hunger to go after it all.  I’ve also prayed for God to deliver me from this season of busyness, as he sees fit, because only He knows how I want to spend a week on a beach for my birthday (which falls during busy season).

The other option of complaining and being unappreciative; let me tell you exactly where that got me: moody, stressed out, and burnt out!  Changing my perspective, changed my enthusiasm around the hard work that’s required to be a business owner, or to work a job at all!  Heavy is the head that wears the crown. It helped me to realize that the very things I pray for, require hard work, tenacity, resilience, and PATIENCE!

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Let’s not dismiss that fact that we get tired with everything that Mom’s juggle, and please don’t ever think that to be successful you have to skip out on sleep!  I am a night owl, naturally; I also understand the value in rest! Running on empty will  have you in a race that you’ll never win!  So, I am not suggesting that you don’t get rest!  Instead, I’m shedding a little light to say, appreciate your season of busyness, and work and pray for it’s ending.  Realize that it’s apart of the “Glow Up”, and move along with your day!  You got this, baby girl!

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Productive & Present – Is that a Thing?

Today, January 2, 2019 is the likely the FIRST day, that I woke up, and made my child a hot breakfast before leaving for school.

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One of my biggest challenges, with (I was going to say being an entrepreneur) having a career, is ensuring that I am giving my career and my child adequate attention. I’ve had a very demanding career for the last 10 years, and during some seasons, I’ve struggled with taking care of myself, because I was working so hard.

Throwing a child in the mix, shook things up a bit. Today, January 2, 2019 is the likely the FIRST day, that I woke up, and made my child a hot breakfast before leaving for school. Sue me, but she’s been eating school breakfast, for the last 3 years. Burnt out from working late hours and minimal sleep, my goal has usually been, to just get her to school before breakfast isn’t an option!

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Balance has always been a sore topic for me because of work, and without the help of my mom (mostly), I don’t know how I’d do it.  In hindsight, for two years my mom washed and folded my and my daughter’s clothes.  She cleaned my home regularly (and still does whenever she’s here), so that I could have time with my daughter, when I wasn’t working.  Outside of wanting to transition to full-time entrepreneurship, the most pressing reason I wanted to leave my corporate job was because I needed to spend more time with my daughter.  I wanted to make time for the library, homework, or to simply enjoy a meal together.

I’ve had a very demanding career for the last 10 years…

Working and having a child (and family) is challenging because you want to continue to elevate in both arenas.  You’re usually working to be promoted or to grow/sustain your business, and with motherhood, it is an ever-evolving job that requires continuous improvement and adjusting. I want my child to think back on her childhood, and know that she’s been a priority, that I took time to hug and kiss her, and to do meaningful things with her.  My worse fear is that she will grow up to think that work was more important than her.

Over the last nine months, the biggest lesson I’ve learned, is that I have to be intentful and purposeful with my time!  Ninety percent of the time, I work from home.  So I’m still working all day, but planning my day/week/month includes planning time to spend with my daughter. I have set days, that we go to the library.  Whenever she brings books home from school, I make sure that we read them at the dinner table. She gets about an hour to two of TV (mostly educational) every night, while I work, and then we try to get in bed at a decent hour. We pretty much do everything together, and on the weekends I can go really hard with working at least one full day, because she’ll stay with my mom, or her dad.

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There is no perfect answer on how to balance it all.  It requires adjustments, resetting, and effort; effort being the most important! Remember that your journey in business and in motherhood, is your own; and you don’t have to mirror any one else’s!

Your Gifts will Make Room For You!

Your Gifts will Make Room For You!

“You life is a reflection of what you hold inside of you, and what you hold inside of you is always under your control.”

With approximately three weeks left in 2018, everyone is moving full steam, trying to decide on how they can make the next year better than this one!  I love the optimism that comes during this season, and how everyone is looking to tap into their gifts and what they want out of life.  One of the best things I’ve done for myself, is to create a career for myself where I am also able to combine the things I’m passionate about. In doing that, my gift has made room for me!  I have been presented with opportunities, allowing me to operate in my gift, not only providing me with financial gain, but with a feeling of accomplishment and fulfillment.

I had a talk with a client one day, and he told me “When you’re operating in fear, you can talk yourself out of so much.”  He went on to describe how we become a meteorologist, a psychologist, a psychic, and so on, when we are thinking of why things won’t work.  The weather will be bad, people won’t like my idea, it’s not the right time, what if I fail – excuses for not executing.  However, what if none of those things exist, and you can truly walk in your gift!  Walking in your gift does not mean that you have to quit your 9-5.  Heck, your 9-5 could be the very place that allows you to do that.  It does mean that you must have an honest conversation with yourself about what will suit you best, in this moment.

“You don’t need permission or creative license to design the life you know you are worthy of, so adjust your crown and prepare to rule.” ~ June Ambrose

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I talk about, in many of my blogs, how I worked a 9-5 and ran my personal business, for SEVEN years, simultaneously. I switched jobs quite a bit, because non of them felt like a really good fit for me. In hindsight, I realized that I was the common denominator, and the only work that I have been truly happy with, is the work I’ve done for myself. I knew that at some point, I’d end up working for myself, but I did not know when and what would be the determining factor.  Honestly, I didn’t know until three months out, that it was time to quit.  In short, I was unreasonably busy, my business was growing, and being a present mom was important to me.  Once I had that conversation with myself, I was ready to leave that day!  I ended up waiting, three months, until I got my bonus!

Working for myself has also allowed me the flexibility to do other work, that I’m passionate about, like Corporate Momming! Starting this blog has allowed me to connect with many like-minded moms, and business women.  It has further allowed me to tap into other ways in which people need what I have to offer. My gifts are still making room for me!

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If you struggle with identifying your gift(s), it’s the thing(s) that don’t go away.  The thoughts and actions that constantly resurface, even when you’re purposely avoiding them! Maybe you’re good at creating, planning, encouraging others, or something as simple as writing!  Whatever it is, they all have the ability to allow you the flexibility to operate in them, as you see fit! Choosing not to, will cause constant dissatisfaction! Every job, and every tasks will become daunting experiences because you are doing the work to fulfill someone else’s vision and not your own.

This time around, while doing vision boards, grab pen and paper, and write down your ideas to go along with the photos you attach.  Also include language around, ways in which you can find more fulfillment in the work that you do!  Remove the focus from money (I can almost promise, it will come!) and spend time really digging into the work that makes you happy!  Also, hold yourself accountable to that by constantly checking in and determining where or if adjustments are needed.

Boundaries: Where Necessary

Boundaries: Where Necessary

Boundary: a line that marks a limit.

Having real boundaries set, were not a real thing to me until I had a child. There were boundaries that I had subconsciously set, based on my moral compass, and time.  However, having a child made me really think about things that I could no longer allow or participate in, to ensure I was spending my time and energy where it was most important, with my child.

As I begin to grow in motherhood and as an entrepreneur, I began to set more and more boundaries. Boundaries were necessary in order for me to be to be organized, to have peace, and ultimately to be successful.  I was, initially, very reactive in setting boundaries, setting them only after a point of frustration.  Then I realized the benefit of proactively setting them to avoid frustration, confusion, and wasted time.  I also learned that when setting boundaries, I had to eliminate emotional inhibitions.  I couldn’t be concerned with how people would feel (if my heart was in the right place) and I had to focus on what was best for my child and my personal success.

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Queen of “The Side Hustle”

Queen of “The Side Hustle”

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I knew that I didn’t want my side hustle to stay a side hustle…

If you’ve ever thought about starting a business, side hustles (jobs) are a great way to build and develop your ideas, while maintaining a steady income. Side hustles give you the opportunity to start small, as you learn and work your way up.   They are also a way to bring in additional income, and to just pursue multiple things you’re passionate about. The nice thing about side hustles is, you can commit as much or as little as you chose to, and there is a ton of flexibility involved.

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Boss Babe vs. Boss Baby

I run into women launching new businesses, and looking to advance in their careers all the time, and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I can’t imagine how do you do all this, with a baby (or small child)?”. In my mind, my answer is always, “I’m actually better at it, because I have a child.” I am more organized and focused than I’ve ever been.

There is a stereotype of some sort that makes career-oriented women incompatible with being a mother.  Meanwhile, no one is questioning how men with children are able to remain committed to their work. We don’t always discuss or admit, that being a working mom is much different from being a man.  It comes with its own set of challenges (and rewards). At no point, is it easy to try to being a boss mom.  You know how the saying goes, to whom much is given, much more is required!

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Tools: Planning Made Easy

Tools: Planning Made Easy

Hi New Friends!

I started Corporate Momming, June 19, 2018.  I was sitting in training, and my mind drifted off into space.  During this time, I came up with a name and immediately began to execute on the project.  Initially I wanted to wait to get a fancy/elaborate website, and  a ton of planning, but instead, I started with what I had.

I created a planning tool, that would assist moms in planning out their week, with considerations for home life, and personal life. I believe that moms should consider their mental health as important as their family’s, because you can’t pour into others, if your cup is empty.  I initially made this available for those that followed the blog.

Today, I am releasing an updated version, (shout out to my best friend/sister, Celeste, for her help!)and sharing to all readers, free of charge.  The planner can be downloaded, by using the following link:  Corporate Momming_ Weekly Planning Tool.

Thank you for joining the Corporate Momming community, and I hope that I have and can continue to add value to your journey!

Blessings,

Robyn